On another blog I comment on, there was a discussion about women’s dress and modesty. This was people commenting on an audio message that someone posted. The discussion lead to lust especially single men and what could be done to help it. The message quoted one single man as even saying that a purse strap over a woman caused him to stumble.
For background, one person had previously shared that the single men even in their 30’s at her courtship taught church were pretty much staying to themselves and having limited interaction with single women. Another person I know shared that the group/courtship teaching gave the single men an excuse for avoiding getting to know single women and they stuck to their hackey sack playing etc.
I wonder sometimes if a lot of the “lust” these single men seem to struggle with could be attributed to the group/courtship philosophy and/or the environment this philosophy seems to produce? One can usually tell if a church promotes this philosophy by looking at how the singles interact. If the single men and women are acting almost afraid of each other, then chances are high it is a group/courtship church.
What I am asking is that maybe a lack of genuine single brother/single sister friendships (I am not talking romantic) can produce problems such as lust. Things can lead to fantasy when normal interactions are suppressed. If the single brothers and sisters aren’t doing healthy things together as one person indicated then maybe that could be at least a partial cause.
I am not excusing behavior but just asking if maybe the situation is not helping or maybe this is even setting up single men for failure? It certainly sounds ludicrous to me for 30 year old single men to be playing video games with each other and having limited interaction with single women. I have heard people say the group/courtship system conveniently give single men and women an excuse to not interact. That may not have been the intention but it seems to be what it produces.
Maybe a lack of healthy friendships is a big cause of why a purse strap causes one to stumble?