I have been going back through Harris’s “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” book for at least the third time.
As I reread the book, I get more and more of the opinion that what he writes about and suggests applies more to teenagers and not necessarily to older single adults. Unfortunately in this book I don’t see any acknowledgment that this might be a possibility. To give Harris credit, in his book “Boy Meets Girl” he does acknoledge that their is room for latitude.
One of the problems with Harris’s two books on groups/courtship is that he writes somewhat from a testimonial stand point. He is sharing what worked for him and how it applied to him as a teenager. When he decided to “kiss dating goodbye” he was also struggling in certain areas. I am shocked at how people assume that what worked for him at his age and situation should be the norm for all people.
My thought is that the group approach is good for “teenagers.” It might even be justified to make that the “norm” vs. the exception. As a single person matures as they move into their 20’s the “need” for doing things in groups isn’t there. As stated in another one of my posts, one well known Christian authority presents how rules against are harmful.
I was involved with one church where they offered the singles (who were mostly in their 20’s) a lot of group opportunities where you could get to know various people of the opposite sex without having to date. At the same time dating was allowed and wasn’t even looked down on. The balance seemed to work quite well.